Today, a very good friend of mine was dumped by her boyfriend via email! The boyfriend was asked, by my friend, if he would be willing to chat over a cup of coffee to sort this out and have a respectful ending. This 28 year old joker (I prefer not to call him a man as I might offend real men) refused as it would be too complicated. WHAT A TOTAL COWARD!!! I bet he felt really strong and brave, like a real man, when he typed away on his keyboard, as he sat behind his computer, in his nice safe office! (Not exactly the image of a man Braveheart projected).
Sadly, this is nothing new. As a minister, i have noticed over the years that there is an ever growing trend amongst the (i hesitate to call them men) male species, where less of them are willing, or even able, to act like real men when facing conflict. Whatever the conflict is, there seems to be a perceived notion that when you write your words addressing that conflict in text message or email, you are still justified as a man.
No No! This is not a man, this is a ________________ (ladies, fill in the blank).
Gone are the days where men would leave home in their mid-teens to go fight in wars for their family and country. Gone are the days where men are true gentlemen. Come, have the days, where wannabe men fight, argue, break up, and flex there character ‘muscle’ behind a keyboard. Come, have the days, where being a gentlemen is about ticking off the “open the car door for her once” check block in a heightened pursuit to get into her pants. Followed by… yip, you guessed it, a typed message saying WHATEVER is necessary to avoid manning up and taking responsibility!
The idea of women looking for men who will protect them and stand up against danger is diminishing at a drastic rate. Women are moving into the roles of being protectors of families (And good for them). Why? Because men are few and far in-between. They are a dying breed.
If a man cannot own up to his mistakes and cannot communicate with someone in person, then he cannot call himself a man. He is nothing more than a spineless coward.
If you have ever called off a relationship with someone via email or text message, and had the means to rather do it face-to-face, then you are the coward is speak of and have no right entering into a relationship with someone who will inevitably be hurt by your spineless nature.
I challenge you men: Whomsoever you have wronged is this way, set up a meeting with them and do the right thing. Grow some balls and learn to be a man. If you don’t, rather cut them off because you are an embarrassment to real men!
To my friend, and the other ladies out there who have fallen victim to spineless wannabe men, I encourage you hang in there for the real man. To help you discern who that may be, grill them with the hard questions from the beginning. Forget about knowing what their favourite movie and colour is. Go straight to the heart of the matter. If they run, well, then you just met a keyboard warrior.
I also need to note that this disrespectful attitude towards others is not restricted to men only, as there is also a large percentage of woman who are also keyboard warriors, and therefore the opposite is true. Either way, my advice remains the same: When you’re getting to know someone, by all means, have the tough conversations. Forget about the fluff. You owe it to yourself to discern who the real-deals are, and who the keyboard warriors are.
